Good and Evil

I had to ask myself what makes you a "good person"?

If you are a good father, give back to the community, attend church devoutly and believe and God - are you a good person.

Can you compartmentalize your good? If your a good father but lie to get what you want from another, does that balance out? Some would say, that is the definition of 'Human' - the balancing of positive and negative acts.

When I met him, he told me he didn't have a girlfriend. He did have children and had the appearance of a good father. We had a lot in common, felt the same way about the same things. We were even born a few days apart.

He said "Yes, I'm dating but she's not my girlfriend - you can ask her"

Today, I found out he had a girlfriend.

Yesterday, I told him - My father cheated on my mother, I don't want to be "that chick". The one on the side - the one a man cheats with.

He said "I wouldn't do that to you"

Today, I found out he has a girlfriend

So, I had to ask myself "what makes you a good person?"

I've decided - He's an ass and Not a good person, regardless of what he has done independent of knowing me.

Can you be a good father but not a good role model?

Can you be a devotee of Church and God and lie?

Can you say - To Hell with what you want, forget that you have no desire to participate in my cheating.....

My feelings are hurt, I admit.

Hurt because I've been let down by people, yet again. I guess I thought that if I was honest about not wanting to be with a cheat - he'd at least honor my wishes.

I think I've decided that he's not a good person, there are somethings that don't balance out but rather taint the good that you may do. Like modeling cheating behavior for you son. Lying to your girlfriend. Allowing your daughter to see, by your actions, that she shouldn't expect to be a person in her own right - just expect to play the role in some man's lie/life.

I guess within humans there are positive and negative acts - but there are acts that far out weigh another and have a lasting effect on your "future good"....

This might be one of those times.

Karma's a bitch